Tips on How to Write a Eulogy for a Father

When considering how to write a eulogy for a father, it must be first addressed that were it any other time in a person’s life, the words to properly eulogize such an important person in one’s life would come much easier. This however, is a time of grief, yet one where finding the right words is still a must.

In order to give a lasting eulogy, one must first come to learn what a eulogy is, it is a speech given at a person’s funeral that is hoped to convey to the mourners a truer sense of who the deceased was during their time on earth. Generally, a eulogy will contain a summarized version of the deceased’s accomplishments as well as the personal feelings of the person giving the eulogy and also a reasoning why this person meant so much to the speaker. When working out how to write a eulogy for a father, many of these points will already be a given.

It is best to attempt to incorporate many happy stories of the time spent with your father as well as the memories which are the longest lasting. Those memories sometimes contain more pain, no one wants to focus on how bad they skinned their knee on the first day of full-on bike riding, but the way your dad was there to pick you up and get you right back on the bike is a memory worth sharing with all of your loved ones during this rough time. There are many examples of how to write a eulogy for one’s father online, but to give a standard template speech at a funeral is really missing the point of a eulogy in an of itself.

It’s human to fear giving a speech. As the Nick DiPaulo joke goes, far more people would rather be the one in the casket than the one giving the speech. In that fear though, the human character is released by forcing oneself to face the fear and truly give their father the respect in passing that he deserves.  A template speech instead of actually writing a eulogy for a father tends to strip the speaker of that raw emotion and the true energy that this person that is no longer with us brought to not only the speaker, but also everyone else mourning the speaker’s loss with him. One must write the speech from their heart. Sit and reflect upon the difference your father has made in your life and find a way to relay that information to the crowd. No one expects a poet, merely a human.

If you are given the task of figuring out how to write a eulogy about your father, please understand that those who asked you to do this, are unable to do it themselves. During a time of grief, everyone must be more than themselves in some fashion to help ease the loss of the tremendous presence a father can be for every member of the family. It is always important to keep in mind that while your father may not have always had the exact right words for you, his intent was always clear. Your eulogy for him may not have the words of Shakespeare or the cadence of  Winston Churchill, but if the words are sincere, and the feeling behind them genuine, your father would still be proud.

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